• Kirsti Gwynn

4 Emotional Resilience Habits to Improve Your Mental Health

Sad but true: we can’t control whether things go wrong or not.

So how can you strengthen your resilience, so that you’re able to manage the ups and downs of life without feeling like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster?

Here are 4 mental habits you can adopt to develop greater emotional resilience:

1. Choose a Purpose as Your Compass:

I remember a discussion, in high school: “What is the meaning of life?”

Back home, I came to my own conclusion. Surely the meaning of life must be to leave the world just a little better than it was before you lived?

If I could help even one person to find a more positive perspective on their life, mine would be worth it, I decided.

So my question is: what would make your life “worth it” for you?

Rather than seeking a passion – that lofty lightening bolt that we all hope will strike and fill us with bottomless joy – I invite you to choose a purpose, a why that underwrites everything you do.

Purpose is the secret all passion-driven people hold. I have yet to meet one person who identifies as having a passion who can’t uncover a deeper purpose behind it.

Choosing a purpose gives your life direction and provides you with an anchor against the storm. When things are hard, holding onto your sense of meaning keeps you going. None of us are going to enjoy our lives all the time, but your chosen purpose is important to you so those challenging parts of your journey are worth the extra effort.

What is important to you? What would you like to contribute to the world?

Your purpose may be to provide for your family, to create something new, to live with kindness and authenticity, to learn and grow, to build, to inspire, to connect… any why you choose.

2. Process your Negative Emotions in a Positive Way

Your negative emotions are trying to tell you something, but all too often we get caught up playing the same track over and over again, without understanding the underlying message.

Psychological science has found that there are two primary ways we can respond to our emotions.

When we use recall thought, we ruminate on the emotion and re-live the relevant experiences that caused it in our minds. This up-regulates the emotion, causing it to increase. That’s great if you’re daydreaming about your wedding day – but can be detrimental to your wellbeing if you’re ruminating on how rejected you felt, or can’t stop worrying whether you did the right thing.