• Kirsti Gwynn

How to Deal with Pressure from Society

2018 has begun and, as always, a new year brings with it a plethora of different feelings.

For some people, the idea of “fresh start” is exciting and leaves them feeling optimistic about how they can “start over” and pursue their latest ambitious with enthusiasm.

But for others, the new year is a time of increased anxiety — a reminder that we’re “behind” in life (or at least we think we are).

Today, I want to talk about how you may be feeling fearful of the future, why that might be, and what you can do about it.

You might be worrying about the future and what might happen if you don’t achieve your goals.

Maybe all you can see is this big goal it would make you so happy to achieve, but feel daunted by all the steps you’d need to take to actually achieve it. Perhaps you’re overwhelmed just thinking about how you might reach your goal at all, or you’re afraid to take the risks you know you’d need to take.

Whatever the reason for your anxiety — whether you’re generally anxious around this period, something’s already gone wrong this year that’s shaken you, or you’ve already slipped on one of your new year’s resolutions — it’s perfectly okay to be feeling this way.

In the blog, we’ll consider the fear of the future that affects a lot go people at this time of year, why that is, and what you can do about it.

This time of year usually causes us to re-evaluate where we are in life and what we’ve achieved, or are achieving, against some standard.

Usually, this standard is dictated by society. This pressure from society can cause you to compare yourself to others: “Hey, look what he or she has done. Why haven’t I done that? Why am I not keeping up?”

Pressure from society can feed into your own idea of what you should be achieving and by when. You compare where you are in life against where you feel you should be by now.

Often, we find that we fall short of those expectations. This is bound to make you feel anxious.

You’re probably going to find you have a lot of negative thoughts about your success.

What if I’m never successful? What if I’m not good enough? What if I fail?

At the heart of your anxiety, disappointment, and self-criticism is the action of comparing yourself to others you perceive are doing “better” than you.