• Kirsti Gwynn

3 Obstacles to Joy

Have you ever had the sense that you could be enjoying your life more than you do?

There’s a lot of information out there about how to cope with negative experiences, but feeling able to enjoy the good in your life is just as important.

Here are 3 obstacles that can prevent you from enjoying the moment – and how to overcome them.

1. Not Paying Attention

The brain naturally focuses on the negatives more than the positives; that’s just the way it’s built.

That means that unless you consciously choose to notice the good in the present moment, you run the risk of missing it completely.

This doesn’t mean pushing yourself to enjoy what’s happening or forcing a positive feeling – it’s simply pointing out that the experience is good, so your brain pays more attention to it.

When Jenna looked at her day objectively, she noticed that while she was doing a lot that she could enjoy, but she wasn’t really tuned in to these experiences. “I realise it’s more than just doing something nice – I need to ‘bank’ it in my mind,” she told me.

The next time something good happens, try pointing it out to yourself.

Every time you do this, you’ll be training your brain to pay more attention to the good, which will make way for a more positive perspective over time.

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