• Kirsti Gwynn

Achieve Your 2020 Goals

I have a friend who adores the start of a new year. She feels that it’s a clean slate from which to begin, and the opportunity to leave behind the concerns and struggles of the previous year.

But personally, the start of a new year used to make me anxious.

I would find myself overwhelmed by all the things I want to do in the coming year, and I’d recall how, in the past, I’d reached the end of another year only to find that some of my goals were still on the table...

Do you know that feeling?

The truth is, most goal-setting is just not focusing on the right things. 

Since the biggest obstacle to achieving our goals is anxiety, any goal you set needs to be designed to reduce anxiety and increase its opposite: hope.

Anxiety fears a future that is worse than the present. Hope draws us towards a future it believes can be better than now. 

Anxiety holds you back. Hope propels you forward. It’s a motivational force.

The 3 elements I’m sharing with you today are specifically designed to reduce anxiety and increase hope - and you can apply them to any of your 2020 goals.

1. Clarify the Future

If you aren’t clear about how you’d like the future to look, that makes the future seem pretty uncertain - and anxiety shows up whenever things are uncertain. 

In fact, a lack of clarity is one of my main anxiety triggers! If I’m not clear on how I want my future to look, anxiety will keep me paralysed from taking action until I decide.

There are a few key things to remember when it comes to clarity.

First, remember to define how you’d like to feel.

Perhaps you’ll choose three words: maybe they’re calm, content, and free.

Your goals should bring you closer to your desired feelings. If they don’t, you’ll find that anxiety will hold you back. If they do, hope will propel you forward.

Second, in defining what you’d like the future to look like, be sure to stay realistic. Think about this as your best possible self. 

If you set a goal that is too large, you’re not going to be able to believe in yourself; you’ll just feel overwhelmed. 

Remember, most people overestimate what they can achieve in one year, and underestimate what they can achieve in ten.

Third, clarify how day-to-day life would look. What would be different? What would be the same? You need to know exactly what you’re aiming for, or you’ll be stumbling towards the unknown. 

The more uncertainty, unknown, and lack of clarity, the more anxiety.

The more clarity, the less anxiety, and the more motivation.

Your Turn:

What would I like to achieve? 

How would I like to feel?

What things would look different from now?

How might things be the same?

Does this goal feel possible?

2. Define Multiple Pathways

Now that you’ve drilled down in